Season's Greetings

Anyway, if the point of sending holiday cards is to spread cheer, is one way really better than another? Probably not. But, as usual, there are guidelines that can help us not only send cards that are in good taste, but also avoid careless mishaps that might offend a friend. And why not follow them, especially if it makes the recipient feel a little more special?

GRACIOUS GREETINGS

•  Sign every card (in blue or black ink, for those of us who prefer to be perfectly correct), even if it’s just “Merry Christmas,”“Happy Holidays,” or your signature.

•  Don’t leave acquaintances guessing. Even if you’re sending cards to close friends, it makes sense to include your surname. When the whole family sends a card and the children’s names are included, the father’s name traditionally comes first. Children are listed from eldest to youngest. If there are children from previous marriages, list only first names.

•  Think twice about printed address labels. A handwritten address on the envelope will make a friend feel special. It’s quite acceptable to emboss, print, or handwrite your return address, but don’t leave it off. You need to know if someone didn’t receive your card due to a change of address or a mistake at the post office.

•  Make your list (and check it twice). You will probably want to cross off the names of those you’re no longer in touch with, as well as add a few new friends. You’ll also need to consider those who’ve moved, divorced (be aware that some divorced women take back their maiden name), or even passed away. And just as you won’t receive a corresponding card for every one you send, there’s no need to reciprocate to the new neighbors you (oops!) left off this year. Just acknowledge your pleasure in having received their card the next time you see them.

•  Keep the newsletter tasteful. The letter should be a reasonable length and the information limited to news that is appropriate to share with those you know on a casual basis: “Our first grandchild arrived in August” or “Alice plans to marry in May.”

•  A holiday card can serve as a moving card. If your card will announce your new address, mail it a little earlier this year.